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New submission from veronica

This happened to me when I was in a ice cream shop last year. I just felt like I should share my story because it has been bothering me for a while now. I went to go get ice cream at a small shop on the southside of town one evening on my way coming home from the city. As i was walking in a man came up to me walked right up to me and kissed me on my cheek. I was scared. He told me he had not seen me in forever. I had no clue who he was so i was assuming he confused me with someone else. I told him i do not know you. This kiss happened so sudden i did not have time to pull away it was a total shock to me. I walked inside the shop and i figured he would leave me alone once i told him I did not know him. but i was wrong. he followed me inside. I thought maybe if i just get in line he wont come up to me again but he did. He asked me how my mom had been doing and once again i told him i do not know you! he asked if he could buy me a ice cream i told him no i have money i dont need anyone to buy me anything. at this point i wanted to walk out but at the same time it was getting dark outside and i did not want him to follow me out to my car so i was really stuck on what to do. now that i look back on it i should have told someone who works there that the man was bothering me but i wonder if they would even care. anyways, i bought my ice cream and the man followed me so i just decided to sit down at a table near a bunch of people because i was too afraid to leave my car i thought maybe if i stay here long enough he will go away. he took a seat at my table and started to talk to me and i just ignored him and told him that i have a boyfriend and he was on my way to meet me at the shop. he told me he did not care and that we could be friends. I told him i dont want to be friends with him. he would not leave my table so i finally just decided to get up and run to my car. of course he followed me outside and followed me to my car. i sped off at this point and he still stood in the parking lot while i had already drove off. i was afraid he might follow me so i went to another public place and waited a while until i made sure no one was following me. I should have told someone but i was really nervous and scared at the time and was not thinking clearly because i was panicked. since that incident I have majorly limited going out anywhere by myself. its sad that i have to do this and that i can not go places alone freely like a man would be able to because i have to live my life in fear all of the time.

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Stalking, Verbal Harassment

“Hey big girl, can I walk with you?”

I was walking through a new neighborhood midday to see if it was any less harassy than the place I used to live. Sadly, in a 30 minute walk, I was harassed twice. Both times there were bystanders, and both times the bystanders did NOTHING AT ALL.

First, on this side-street, a man on a motorbike slowed down and stared at me. I mean really slow. And staring right in my eyes. It felt really threatening. The man walking in front of me with his little dog didn’t react at all. After the guy on the motorbike rode away, I commented, “Man, I wish I could walk down the street like you and not have to be harassed all the time.” The guy turned around and looked surprised and said, “Oh I just thought he was slowing down. I didn’t know what he was doing.” He looked at me like I was crazy for thinking that counted as harassment.

Then literally a block away, a group of guys were hanging out on the street corner, and one of them hollered at me, “Hey big girl, can I walk with you?” I said “No” and he and all his friends had a good laugh as he told them I said no. This is both absurd and infuriating. Just because I’m a large girl gives you no right to comment on my body or ask for something that is obviously intrusive. How can we make this stop???

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Jade’s Story

As I was leaving Kroger with my groceries at 9pm on a Sunday night, the parking lot is nearly empty. A man walks up out of the darkness and suddenly asks me what kind of perfume I’m wearing. I hadn’t showered because I was sick, and I was wearing gross gym clothes. I certainly wasn’t wearing any perfume. Doesn’t really matter, but it made me feel especially uncomfortable that clearly even what he was saying didn’t make any sense unless he was trying to offend me.

I ignore him and keep walking to my car. I keep him in the corner of my eye because he starts flailing his arms, saying “All I asked was what perfume she’s wearing!” as he walks back to his two male friends in the dark. I rush to my car and get in as fast as I can because he keeps yelling about it and sounds like he’s getting really mad.

What makes him think he has the right to approach a stranger in the dark and demand that she respond to his questions? I did hear his friends telling him to calm down, so at least the bystanders were a little helpful. But I wish they would have kept him from approaching me in the first place.

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Stalking, Verbal Harassment

Luna’s Story

Almost every day walking to work, I am just walking along Carlton avenue as all of the construction workers are driving to their jobs in their trucks (this is not an assumption – these are pickup trucks with the contractor business names on them and construction supplies in the back), and at least 2 or 3 of them will slow down next to me and stare like wild dogs at me with their tongues out. I will glare right back and look them in the eyes and they seem to get a kick out of the fact that I’m offended and clearly want them to stop gawking. Every once in a while they make comments.

When I pass someone who is not in a car, I can preemptively look them in the face and give a stern “hello” and that tends to keep them from harassing me, at least most of the time. But when they’re in a car/truck, there is nothing I can do and they drive away before I can write down their license plate or call their boss. It’s infuriating. It makes me not want to walk anymore and instead drive my car to work, which goes against what I believe in both for my physical freedom and well-being as well as the environment. I’m so sick of this. It has to stop.

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Verbal Harassment

“I hear them getting angry and commenting about how rude I am for not talking to them.”

This happens at least twice every time I walk more than a block in this town. It’s not surprising that so many people are being abducted and murdered, that so many are raped every week here, when harassment is so common.

It was 8pm, but already getting dark, and there are still folks walking around on The Corner, which is an area that is part of the UVA and Charlottesville culture. I’m just walking home from a great event about women in church leadership, and twice in the dark come out different grungy men, talking to me, and pissed when I don’t stop and smile and chat with them.

What makes them think they have the right to expect a stranger, just because she’s female, just because she’s a big girl, etc. to have to talk to them? The entitlement is disgusting. As I walk away, I hear them getting angry and commenting about how rude I am for not talking to them.

I just walk on because it’s not my problem and I just want to get home safely. But it’s terrible that we have to be afraid, treated like subjects…

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“I’m only 14!”

(Quick comment- I live in Reston, Virginia, so this is the nearest Hollaback location to me, and I wanted to share my story with people who live near me and experience similar things, possibly even from the same people.)

On a run in my neighborhood today, a man in a car passing me wolf whistled. As a minor, (I’m only 14!), it was my first negative experience of such a kind.

It made me feel unsafe to be running alone because I knew other people with more physical power (a man in a car) were looking at my body sexually, and I could do nothing about it, even if they chose to pursue me further.

I am also deeply disturbed to realize that even as a minor running in a family community, I can be made to feel unsafe.

I want to end street harassment because it makes me feel unsafe and unhappy, and that is no way for any person to feel!

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Verbal Harassment

Angelas Story: “I’d love to eat you for dinner tonight!”

A group of six men walking toward me on my way to work all started whistling and saying crude things, when one man said, “I’d love to eat you for dinner tonight!”

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